Feature: Is Your Sex Life, a Porn Clip

Is Your Sex Life Like a Porn Clip?

Porn is like food. Much of it is harmless. Some of it is bad. But some of it is simply good.

Younger people who are lesbian, gay, bisexual, or transgender can discover through porn a window into their own experiences.

Digital Porn

It’s everywhere, even in your bedroom. You may not realize it, your boyfriend may rarely watch it, but the kind of sex you’re having has access-all porn to thank for its life-imitating-art effect.

An Entire Generation of Men

Men have spent the last ten to fifteen years watching porn in quantities unimaginable to
previous generations and the consequence is that they have unconsciously been asking
you to have sex like a porn star.

I realised this for the first time when my girlfriends were having one of those
scandalously frank discussions about sex.

Confessions abounded regarding who liked a little hair pulling, who had had a threesome, who had tried anal.

It was at this point that one girl confessed the guy she was seeing really seemed to enjoy
calling her a “slut” during sex.

She didn’t see anything wrong with it and wanted to let it turn her on, but she couldn’t help the fact that she didn’t enjoy it.

A few other girls said they had experienced the same thing. At this point, another friend chimed in that her boyfriend did this thing where on occasion, during passionate
lovemaking, he engaged in a little light choking.

Nothing serious enough to impair breathing, he barely did more than use one hand to hold her around the neck, but she was surprised by it,

Called Her a Cunt

Then someone else added a story about a guy she was seeing who had called her a cunt.
He didn’t mean it derogatorily, she explained. He said he just wanted hers so badly and it
was meant to be foreplay!

The men my friends were dating had subconsciously allowed common scenarios from pornography to creep into their sexual behaviour.

No Longer Taboo

These acts would have been taboo or even fetishist. Men probably would be embarrassed to even ask for such a thing from a lover.

But after watching it on your computer thousands of times, men have come to believe that this type of sex is the norm. When did it become normal to objectify your wives and girlfriends in the bedroom?

Teenagers Watch Porn

Today’s kids are growing up watching porn. Not just the naked images of yesterday but hardcore porn.

How will this affect their ideas regarding what normal sex is and what kind of sex will they expect to have on an average basis?

I once thought soft-core porn was the answer. If we could get young men to watch romantic sex, maybe we could change what turns the average man on. I don’t think there’s too much chance of that.

Women Want Love. Men Want Sex

Even if women made a version of porn which was romantic and sweet and filled with rose petals, men are not going to be interested in watching it.

It seems we just have to accept that digital porn is changing the way we have sex

Are Women Puritans?

Is there anything inherently wrong with what these men want in the bedroom? If a couple has a completely respectful relationship outside the bedroom, but during sex, the husband wants to call his wife a slut but she doesn’t like it, why should the man have to change? Maybe she’s the one being prudish and repressed.

 

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