Libido refers to your sex drive or desire for sexual activity.
The desire for sex is an aspect of your sexuality but varies enormously from one person to another. It also varies depending on circumstances.
Sex drive has usually biological, psychological, and social components. Biologically, levels of hormones such as testosterone are believed to affect sex drive.
Social factors, such as work and family, also have an impact. as do internal psychological factors, like personality and stress.
Sex drive may be affected by medical conditions, medications, lifestyle and relationship issues. A person who has extremely frequent or a suddenly increased sex drive may be experiencing hypersexuality, but there is no measure of what is a healthy level for sex.
A person may have a desire for sex but not have the opportunity to act on that desire, or may on personal, moral or religious reasons refrain from acting on the urge.
Psychologically, a person’s urge can be repressed or sublimated. On the other hand, a person can engage in sexual activity without an actual desire for it.
Males reach the peak of their sex drive in their teens, while women reach it in their thirties.
My boyfriend and I have been dating for two years, and at first, the sex was mind-blowing, some of the best sex ever. But in the last month or so, I seem to want to have sex more than my boyfriend. Is that normal? If so, how can I help him to want to have more sex with me?
When a couple’s libidos don’t match up, the result is normally frustration for the one with the higher libido and shame for the other.
This is a difficult subject to bring up with your partner, since you don’t want to place any stress on them, or they could develop performance anxiety and withdraw from the relationship.
It’s possible that this discrepancy in libido comes from boredom with the sexual habits of the relationships. This problem appears frequently in long-term relationships as you both develop routines together.
I’d recommend that you concentrate on the sex you do already have and try to make that the best sex ever. Get creative; bring in some fantasies you share or even some toys.
Set aside enough time to allow for plenty of foreplay to ensure a stress-free time. By relieving some of the stress in your life and making sex more playful and exploratory, it is possible that your boyfriend’s libido will increase along with his interest.
It’s also possible that your boyfriend simply has a lower desire for sex, or needs to have sex less often. This doesn’t have to be a bad thing, especially since he seems to still desire you when you two do have sex.
Most relationships suffer from an imbalance of libidos, many of them thrive. If the sex between you is still satisfying and you’re happy with other aspects, then, in my opinion, your relationship is pretty good.
Get yourself a vibrator for those days when your boyfriend isn’t in the mood, and keep having great sex on the days he is.
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