A Meditation on the Measure of Black Men of the World.
By Mark Darcy
In my book “Hung Well” Richard Jones tells us he is a black man who has never been arrested, doesn’t have any out-of-wedlock children and grew up in the suburbs with parents who loved him. He graduated from Guildford, was a founding editor of Scribe magazine and has been on “Vision” three times.
It’s an impressive dossier. Even so, he says, “there are still days when I go to the gym and I get out of the shower and wrap my towel close around me because I am a black man, and for a black man I just may not . . . ‘measure up.’ ” My book poses an awkward and surprisingly complicated social and maybe racial question: Who doesn’t want to have the biggest cock in the room?
Richards obsession with all this began when an older cousin told him that the size of his penis went a long way to determining his status as a man. (Funny thing — I was told the same thing by an uncle when I reached puberty.) Richard recalls a night from Uni when he was feeling “cooler than cool” and was approached by a white girl at a bar. They talk. Laugh. Dance. And, for the first time, he slept with a woman of a different race. After they’ve finished having sex, she told him he was pretty good . . . but she was surprised he wasn’t bigger. When he asks why, she responds, “Because you’re black!”
We here at Forbidden Erotica decides to check with the experts: are black men’s penises bigger than white men’s? Richard cites early versions of the Kinsey Report, which state that the average length of the erect adult penis is roughly 5.9 inches. But he points out that those early surveys didn’t include black men. Later, when they were included, the average length was reported to be closer to 6.1 or 6.2 inches.
Size apparently matters to both straight and gay men, both black and white, we learn from many studies that many men have no problem admitting that they check each other out in changing rooms and bathroom stalls. But not all black men regard a big member as a personal trophy. One of this publication’s friends, Simon, is described as a heterosexual, athletic, sports graduate who’s pretty well endowed. Yet Simon considers his penis more of a burden than a birthright. “It’s like I’m some kind of walking cliché,” Simon tells us. “I don’t like the idea that it makes other guys jealous, black or white. When they pay so much attention to it, it drives me crazy. It’s like I’m on the slave block or something.”
We also explored the pervasive racism in the media and the anxiety white men feel about the black penis and what it represents. (“By creating a sexual monster, they’d created something that needed to be controlled, feared.”) This anxiety dates back to the hatred that the lynch mob in mid-1950’s Mississippi felt for Emmett Till when he whistled at a white woman. We to the rape cases of Kobe Bryant and Mike Tyson, the size of their penises was sometimes hinted at in some publications, while in the case of the white football player Mark Saunders, who was accused of raping his children’s teenage babysitter, there was no similar national conversation. The same silence oversize was present during other sensational trials involving white men like William Kennedy Smith and Robert Chambers.
Richard Jones offers his own interpretations of subculture figures like the “homo thug” (tough, non-flamboyant gay men) and men “on the down-low” (allegedly straight men who sometimes have gay sex) and he has interesting things to say about movies like “Mandingo” and “Shaft,” and about Robert Mapplethorpe’s photographs of black men.
We were curious about why the only in-depth interview we could find was with Phillip Scott, a porn star! Scott, educated at Private School and later went on to Nottingham University, tells us he couldn’t get a girlfriend in University because it was the era of the light-skinned, curly-haired black man. Scott challenges the stereotype of a brainless porn star with his powerful insights into the politics of sex, and he has great stories to tell. His experience also raises perhaps the only “bigger is better” question worth asking: Will “size” always matter regardless of other purely physical factors (skin colour, hair colour, eye colour, body shape)?
Our conclusion after a poll of a 1000 women, you’re damm right SIZE MATTERS………..
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