A Woman Needs Foreplay
When the vagina’s at rest its muscle tissue remains tightly folded like a closed accordion. Anxiety makes the vaginal musculature clench even tighter.
That’s why young girls sometimes have problems inserting tampons. Their vaginal muscle tissue is tight and contracted, to begin with, and many girls feel anxious about touching themselves and inserting anything, so the muscles contract even tighter.
As women become sexually aroused, vaginal muscle tissue relaxes somewhat. Biologically, this makes perfect sense. Evolution is all about facilitating reproduction.
A tight vagina would impede intercourse and reproduction, so women evolved to have sexual arousal relax the vaginal muscles, allowing easier insertion of erections and a greater chance of pregnancy.
However, arousal-related vaginal loosening doesn’t produce a big open cavity like the inside of a sock. Rather, the vaginal interior changes from resembling a tight fist to a fist loose enough to insert a finger or two.
If the vagina feels “too tight” during lovemaking, the woman is either (1) not interested in sex, or (2) she has not had enough warm-up time to allow her vaginal musculature to relax enough for comfortable insertion.
A man who attempts intercourse before the woman is fully aroused–before her vagina has relaxed and become well lubricated–is either sexually unsophisticated or a bore!
Most women require at least 30 minutes of sensuality-kissing, hugging, and mutual massage for their vaginas to relax enough to allow the penis to slide in comfortably.
That’s why leisurely, playful, whole-body foreplay is so important. It gives women (and men) the warm-up time they need.
Breathing increases, heart rate increases, and blood begins to move to various parts of the body. The breasts begin to enlarge (more in women who have not breastfed) and nipples may become erect.
The clitoris becomes erect, causing it to enlarge slightly (more in width than length) and become more sensitive. The outer labia lay flat, revealing the inner labia which swell and darken in colour.
The vagina begins to lubricate, and the uterus starts to move up and away from the vagina. It was previously believed that the uterus increased in size during arousal; in fact, it does not change size, but simply moves up into the body.
PLATEAU – With further stimulation, the clitoris becomes more sensitive and pulls back further under the clitoral hood. The inner lips thicken more, as much as two or three times normal, and may part, making the entrance to the vagina visible.
The inner and outer labia darken, becoming quite dark just before orgasm. Women who have been pregnant have a better blood supply to the genitals, and their labia will darken more than before they had children.
The vagina expands and elongates, ballooning out in the deepest two-thirds. The outer one-third of the vaginal wall thickens (due to increased blood flow) and contracts, making the entrance tighter.
The uterus elevates to its highest point. Heart rate and blood pressure increase, and a skin flush may appear on the chest, neck, or face (these “sex flushes” occur in both sexes, but are more common among women).
Breathing increases and soft vocalisation may occur. If position allows, the hips may be moved in a rocking motion, which thrusts the genitals up and down. If this motion occurs, it will increase as orgasm gets closer, possibly becoming rather dramatic.
Muscle tension increases, especially in the legs and buttocks. The woman may open her legs farther and/or repositioned them as orgasm approaches.
At orgasm, the outer one-third of the vagina contracts repeatedly about every 8th of a second. The uterus and anal sphincters also contract.
There may be foot spasms or contracting facial muscles, the body may go stiff, and her back may arch. Breathing, heart rate, and blood pressure reach their highest points